My head keeps telling me to do more things

What are your gut feelings about what you should be focusing on or doing this week, month or quarter?

Have you taken any time for yourself (real time for yourself) to notice?

I’ve noticed a desire to slow down right now.


Saturday was the funeral for my father-in-law and it was a beautiful time of remembrance of his life.

People keep asking how I am and I respond with “good” and “fine”.

I respond this way not because I want them to feel better, but because I really am good and fine.

I’ve noticed part of me thinking that because I am “good” and “fine” I should jump right into “normal” life.

My head keeps telling me to do more things, update my plan for the first quarter with ideas I’ve had in the last 10 days, and put solid dates and plans into the calendar for 2019.

And yet, I’ve felt the desire to slow down.

The desire to slow down comes from a deeper place.

From this deeper place, I’m being asked to put a hold on the PLANS I want to create now because they’ll change in a week or two.

From this deeper place, I’m being asked to recognize that even though I really do feel good and fine, I need some time before I jump back in 100%.

From this deeper place, I trust that taking this time now will serve me better than PUSHING through and DOING-ALL-THE-THINGS.

There won’t be a Wednesday LIVE with Evie this week and it may not return until February.

However, I’ll still be showing up here each week with a note like this one.

And while today’s note isn’t an overt productivity tip, it is a productivity reminder to listen to your intuition and notice what you need.

YOU are the driving force of your business and taking the time to notice and honor what you need is important.

What guidance does your intuition (or gut or whatever your name for it is) have to share with you about the upcoming weeks?

If you would like to share I’d love to see your responses in the comments below!

PUSH through or TAKE time?

Happy New Year! And all that jazz 🙂

There’s been a bit going on behind the scenes that have contributed to my silence in the last week or two.

Yes, part of it was the holiday season and spending time with family.

The other part is that my father-in-law, Phillip, passed away the weekend before Christmas. His funeral is this weekend.

There is no Wednesday LIVE with Evie this week and while I’ll be working, there might not be one next week (we’ll see how things go).

There are two thoughts about what to do with your business when things like this happen (whether expected or unexpected).

One is to PUSH through it. Show up in your business despite what’s going on behind the scenes. Because the world won’t wait for you! Don’t feel like it? Pressed for time? TOO BAD! You have a business, so GET TO WORK!

The other is to take the time you need (within reason) and take care of yourself. Yes, you might lose some momentum. Yes, there are things to be done that aren’t getting done in your business. But taking care of yourself and your loved ones is also important.

Here’s quick story relating to this.

Many years ago I went to an all-day business training hosted by a successful relationship coach. She was teaching how she built her successful coaching business and how you too could have a successful business.

I don’t remember the question that someone asked about halfway through the day, but I STILL remember her response.

She started ranting about how everyone has to do things in their business even when they don’t feel like it. She went on to share, still ranting and angry, that her serious boyfriend (she had thought he was going to propose soon) just broke up with her and SHE didn’t FEEL like doing this training, but she was HERE ANYWAY.

She was very upset and angry and basically yelled at the woman who asked the question.

And running through my head was “maybe you should have taken care of yourself and rescheduled” and “successful at what cost?”

It also made a couple other…interesting…things from the day make more sense.

If she would have taken the time SHE needed, despite the inconvenience to everyone else, I think everyone’s experience that day would have been better.

The problem with PUSHING through it is we don’t give ourselves times to process the things that are happening.

And if you don’t give yourself time and space to process, those feelings will find other ways to be expressed (like the story above).

So, while you might lose some momentum and you might not complete the things you planned to get done–it’s okay. YOU are more important and those things can be done later.

I saw this and rolled my eyes, hard (◔_◔)

Do you use Twitter?

I don’t post on it, but I do use it to follow some people and occasionally I’ll check it in the morning.

I saw this tweet this morning and rolled my eyes, hard:

This type of advice annoys me because it looks like it’s proven, but it’s not.

There is a correlation (like how people wear more short sleeves than sweaters when buying ice cream cones), but there isn’t causation (like how when the weather gets warmer ice cream cone sales increase).

Then I saw this response:

Yay! A successful person who thinks this advice isn’t helpful!

Here’s the thing: not everyone works the same way!

There is no ONE thing that will guarantee success.

Getting up at 4 am works for those successful people because they’ve found something that works for them and they stick to it.

THAT’s the important part–finding something that works for you and keep doing it.

In this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie we’ll talk about this.


Getting to the real cause of overwhelm

“Overwhelm is not a result of having too much to do, it’s a result of not knowing what to do next.” – Matthew Kimberly

I heard someone refer to this quote over the weekend and I just had to share it with you.

I love it so much because it’s so very true.

Anytime I’m overwhelmed, that’s exactly what’s happening–I don’t know what to do next and that makes it seem like I have too much to do.

So, what do you do when this happens?

You go back to your priorities for the week. What are the top 1-3 things that you need to complete this week? 

If you don’t know that, think about what your goals are for the month or quarter. What tasks and projects move you closer to those goals?

If you have a question, but are overwhelmed and don’t have time to watch the video below then share a comment with your question or situation.


Finding the balance of tasks that get you seen versus tasks that improve your business

Friday I had a decision to make.

I could schedule Facebook posts to my business page for December (the thing that will get me seen).

Or I could take myself through some coursework of a business program I recently purchased (the thing that will improve my business).

I wasn’t sure if I’d have time to work on them over the weekend while at my in-laws and I knew I already had planned a full week for myself this week.

What to do?! 

I had identified both as priorities for the week. 

It came down to two things.

  1. Completing the business program coursework is a top priority for my business right now (I decided when goal setting for December).
  2. To make the most of my business program coursework, I want an hour or two of focused and uninterrupted time and when scheduling Facebook posts I only need short 10-15 minute bursts of focus for about two hours.
So, Friday morning I spent about two hours on that coursework.

And Saturday afternoon I ended up having about two hours working at the kitchen table while my husband and his sister went shopping and my mother-in-law was busy doing her things (it might sound boring, but it was really a great afternoon).

I didn’t get everything done I wanted, but I made really great progress.

I think we go through different phases in our business. 

One phase where we want to hunker down and get all the behind the scenes things done and we ignore the things that make us visible to others or get us seen (whether in person or virtually). 

Another that is the opposite where we’re very visible, always being seen, but at the expense of the behind the scenes work.

And the third where we have a nice mix of the two.

Each phase is important and needed. 

It’s also important to recognize when we’ve become really comfortable in one phase and are ignoring another. 

As an introvert (or maybe as someone who likes to plan) it’s very easy for me to focus exclusively on the behind the scenes things. 

But sometimes, in my effort to not do that I start ignoring some of the behind the scenes by over prioritizing visibility.

It’s like a pendulum swinging from one extreme to the other, but finding that middle ground may require some work. 
I talk about that in the video below.