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A great place to network (sorry guys)

I’m writing this from the hotel of the event/conference I’m at. I wrote something last week (that you’ll see next week) so I wouldn’t need to do this.

However, sometimes you have a realization that you just have to share.

My realization: some of the best networking happens in the line to the women’s bathroom (sorry guys!).

Think about it. You probably have a few minutes together with nothing else to do but look at the ceiling, floor or walls. Why not enjoy the company of those around you!

And it’s probably the easiest place to say “Hi” too. Just turn around and introduce yourself (Hi, I’m [name]). She’ll introduce herself, you can ask her what her business is and you’re off! Don’t forget to ask for a card.

Oh, and if you’ve been given a name tag where your name slides in and you clip it to your shirt or lanyard, then slide some of your cards behind your name and put the cards of your new friends there too.

Don’t forget to write down when and where you met them! You remember now, but by the time you get home it will have all muddled together.

Where do you notice the best networking happens? Share in the comments below!

Question of the Fortnight #4

How do you select the networking events you attend regularly?Question of the Fortnight

Share your answer in the comments below!

What is a fortnight? It’s 14 days or 2 weeks.

What is “Question of the Fortnight?” Every other week I’ll ask a question here on the blog. Through out the two weeks I’ll update the blog post with some of your answers. These will be from the comments below, from people I see networking and any other way I happen to receive your answer to the question.

Make a decision and then make it right

“Make a decision and then make it right.”
(Google tells me that it’s part of a quote from Abraham-Hicks)

I don’t remember where or when I first heard this, but it’s always resonated with me. I take the meaning to be that once you’ve made a decision, commit to it and spend your energy moving forward as if it’s the right decision (and don’t second guess yourself).

It’s the difference between these two attitudes:

  1. What can I learn?
  2. Prove it to me. (Prove that this is worth my time/money.)

Have you experienced both of these? Or maybe seen how each attitude plays out in someone else (sometimes it’s a lot easier to see it in someone else first).

The person with the “prove it to me” attitude is evaluating everything and waiting for something useful to be handed directly to them. At an event they’re complaining about what isn’t working for them – their seat, that last section or even how lunch was handled. And in a program they might be complaining about how the information was delivered or complaining about how it won’t work for them (or hasn’t worked in the past).

The person with the “what can I learn” attitude has on a completely different pair of glasses – their view is much different. They’re also evaluating, but instead of waiting for something useful to be handed to them, they’re looking at everything and looking at how it might apply to them – now or later. They’re enjoying where they are right now, wherever that is.

Let me be clear though, having the “what can I learn” attitude doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. It can also involve recognizing that something doesn’t work for you or isn’t right for you.

The difference is how this is handled.

The “prove it to me” attitude will complain about it and be unhappy.

The “what can I learn” attitude will learn from it and decide what they can do to make it work for them now or how to avoid the situation in the future.

Two people, at similar places in their businesses (and even in similar businesses) can go to the same event (or conference or program or anything) and have completely different experiences based on the attitude they go in with.

Who do you think walks away with the better experience?

Which attitude do you find yourself approaching events or conferences with?

Preparing for Conferences

Have you ever gone to an large event or conference to improve your business and walked away with a long list of things you’re going to do to improve your business? You’re all excited about it and then you get home and your real life kicks in. You don’t have the vibe of the event anymore and you look at that long list and instead of being excited it’s just more stuff to do – UGH.

Can you relate?

I know I can.

Last year I went to an event and was really concerned about this happening, so I decided to do something that can be difficult for me (you might have heard me mention it before) I took a step back and evaluated.

I knew that I wasn’t going to be able to do everything that was mentioned over the course of three days (and I’d probably drive myself and my loved ones a bit batty if I did). So, I took a look at my business and my goals.

I recognized that I wasn’t an established business with a steady stream of clients. So, I wasn’t ready for anything that built on that (this was super hard for me to admit, even just to myself).

And anything that was more geared to someone building their business (or creating a new one) was going to apply.

And given what I know about myself, I knew I’d walk out with things I wanted to do, things that I wasn’t ready for and wanted to remember, ideas to blog about, things to research or learn more about and probably a few other things.

I also expected a binder with the slides and space for notes – notes that I would probably find almost impossible to find again or even remember.

So, what did I do? I pulled out my colored note cards and some sticky notes. I labeled each color something different and stuck a blank sticky note on the inside of my binder when I got it (read on more info on this).

While I didn’t implement everything I wanted to when I got home – I didn’t feel overwhelmed by a long list full of things that I could do and things I wanted to do but wasn’t ready for.

How do you do this? 

  1. Recognize where you are in your business.
    I know this can be difficult. You don’t have to tell anyone else. And it’s really freeing to be able to say to someone thinking about a strategy that you know you’re not ready for “that’s not something I’m focusing on right now” or “that’s not where I am in my business right now.”

  2. Get some note cards or something else to jot brief ideas or tasks on.
    I had several different categories:
    a.     To-do – I jotted the page from the binder next to it
    b.      Blog ideas
    d.      Things to journal about later (things I wanted to think more about)
    e.      Quotes – I collect them and the event had a lot of great ones

    Why not just write everything down in one place on a piece of paper? I find it hard to easily find what I’m looking for when everything is together (if it works for you great!). I know I’m sometimes easily sidetracked or discouraged and looking at a page full of each category above can overwhelm me. So, I create tricks like these to support me.

  3. Bring sticky notes.
    I brought regular sticky notes and stuck one on the inside of the binder. Generally, the binders don’t have an index, so when we hit a section I knew I’d want to reference later, I wrote the topic and page number on the sticky.

    I also placed a sticky note, slightly sticking out, on the pages I wanted to have quick access to. These were things like the schedule and information that I wanted to come back to right away.

    Some events will have a spot for your name and phone number on the first page. If the one you’re at doesn’t, write it on a sticky and put it on the first page. This way you can be reunited if it is accidentally misplaced (it happens, someone set theirs down next to the sinks in the bathroom and forgot it).

Most importantly, do what supports you. This might mean spending some time alone during a break or meal time or it might mean inviting someone you’re sitting near to lunch (really, people appreciate this – most people are there alone or like the opportunity to get to know other people).

What do you do at large events or conferences to prevent overwhelm? Share in the comments below.

Question of the Fortnight #3

What do you do after networking events that other people might not?Question of the Fortnight

Some of the answers I’ve received are:

I don’t know if other people don’t do it, but I contact between 1-3 people after every single networking event to schedule a one on one meeting with someone I met or want to connect with. – Felicity Joy

Share your answer in the comments below!

What is a fortnight? It’s 14 days or 2 weeks.

What is “Question of the Fortnight?” Every other week I’ll ask a question here on the blog. Through out the two weeks I’ll update the blog post with some of your answers. These will be from the comments below, from people I see networking and any other way I happen to receive your answer to the question.