Not broken

The story starts with a very frustrated solopreneur.

A group program that didn’t fill the way I wanted it to (and I really thought it would fill!) and was frustrated and deflated.

I spent some time healing my ego and one thought kept surfacing: What would happen if you did what scares you the most?

Which lead to the question: What scares me the most?

The answer: let everyone know that things aren’t going as wonderfully as I project.

Yep, that scared me. What would people think? What would they do? And would they try to fix me? I didn’t want to be fixed.

So, on a Friday afternoon I found myself in my kitchen contemplating this. And I wondered what I would say.

I stood up, set a timer and started talking.

Nope, too long – it needs to be shorter. After all, I’m not giving a presentation.

What I ended up with was this: My name is Evie Burke. I am not broken. I am perfect just the way I am and I do NOT need to be fixed.

As I repeated that over and over again I started to sob. And I kept saying it.

Slowly, the sobbing subsided and I was saying it with conviction.

It was powerful.

And it’s true.

It’s true for you too.

You are not broken.
You are perfect just the way you are.
You do NOT need to be fixed.

Yet, we have that desire sometimes don’t we?

The desire that someone will come in and fix things for us. Tell us exactly what to do to get through (or around) whatever situation we’re in.

And yet that’s all it really is—a situation.

It’s not that we’re broken or need fixing, it’s just a situation that we’re in right now.

And the situation isn’t good or bad, it just is.

And we might not have the tools or skills to move through the situation the way we want.

But all we see is that gap, the gaping void between where we are and where we want to be. And we assume there’s something wrong with us because we can’t figure out how to cross it on our own.

You are not broken.
You are perfect just the way you are.
You do NOT need to be fixed.

When you find yourself in the middle of something, when your frustrated and a bit lost, remember: it doesn’t mean you’re broken or need fixing. You’re just in a situation that you haven’t found or asked for the tools you need to move through it yet.