In my last post I asked what facts about yourself are no longer true? And what facts do you want to change?
Take a couple of minutes to think about one of those facts. No really, do it, I’ll be here when you’re ready.
Now that you have a fact or two. Let’s talk about a way to change those facts.
What are the messages you give yourself around these facts? Now, what message do you want to give yourself? This one can be tricky, because I know I automatically want to say that opposite of my old fact. However, as my coach points out, when we do that our subconscious can sabotage us because it’s going, “yeah right.” My old fact was “I’m uncoordinated.” So, saying “I’m coordinated” doesn’t really ring true. Sure, that’s how I want to feel or be, but I’ve spent a lot of time believing I’m uncoordinated, so saying the opposite isn’t going to magically make it true.
So, think about what if this fact wasn’t true? How do you behave? What do you experience? Who do you get to be? And replace your old fact with the new truth. It should be something that rings true for you.
For me, being coordinated meant better hand/eye coordination, but it also meant not being ashamed of myself when I couldn’t easily do something that I perceived my peers could easily do. So, if I was coordinated it meant that I could be more comfortable in my own skin and know I could easily keep up with everyone around me. So, a new truth I could have replaced my old fact with is “I’m strong and capable.” That rang true.
Actually, “I’m strong and capable” was an affirmation that I regularly used. I repeated it to myself over and over again before important or stressful meetings. I wanted to be more confident, but saying “I’m confident” didn’t feel true. “I’m strong and capable” felt true and reassuring. I also thought about how it felt emotionally and physically to be strong and capable. So, going into those meetings I would sit straighter, talk calmly and clearly and stay on topic.
What does your new truth feel like emotionally and physically? Use both that and the words as you work on replacing old facts.
If you’re having problems with coming up with a new truth, ask yourself why you want to replace your old fact. So, why do you want to be coordinated? Once you have an answer, ask yourself why again and keep going as long as you can. You’ll emotionally (and maybe physically) feel it when you get to the end. You might find you have a different fact you want to change.
8 thoughts on “How To Change Facts to Fiction”
Work with word combinations to get your affirmations to feel right.
As you note, they gotta sing for them to work. We reject ideas which don’t feel true. Use different words to create different feelings. Be creative.
The language we speak in – as manifestors – consists of feelings. Thoughts or words mean nothing with feelings.
Thanks for sharing the super tips Evie.
Yes, word combinations are important! Thanks!
And, great advice.
I’m new to your blog from the Blogging Mastermind Tribe. I can already think of a few facts I’d like to change. And your way of making it ring true makes complete sense to me. I’ve already thought of a few ways to phrase a new truth that rings true, and I can see how that could help me in future situations. Thank you for the very helpful and interesting post! ~Suerae
I’m glad that you’re putting it into practice!
Great post, Evie! I know that one of mine for years was “I want to be a runner again someday.” Finally, I woke up one day and realized that I was 30 and sick of my disappointments in running hanging over my head. Then, I changed it to “I have discipline, so I will start running again.” A couple weeks ago, I ran 5 miles at 90% effort faster than I ran 5 km all out one year ago. So, now I can say, “I am a runner again, and I will finally run a five-minute mile before my 35th birthday.”
That’s great Steve! And great job with your running!
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