Even if it doesn’t work out, it’s okay

Yesterday, driving home from church I was listening to the Good Life Project podcast by Jonathan Fields. He was talking with Nilofer Merchant (who I had never heard of, but LOVED their conversation – although this is a common thing for me and this podcast).  You can find the podcast here (the part of the conversation I reference below it toward the end).

Nilofer talked with Carol Dweck, who is the source of the growth vs fixed mindset idea, as research for her (Nilofer’s) book and asked Carol “what’s the thing that’s going on in someone’s head for them to be able to have a growth mindset? …What’s that internal conversation?”

And Carol Dweck shared that “the conversation you’re having with yourself is ‘I trust myself enough, that if I fail at it, if I lose it, if I don’t get it right the first time, I trust myself enough to recover.'”

Nilofer rephrases it slight to be: How do you trust that even if it doesn’t work out that it’s okay?

This got me thinking about how in the self-help world or in the solopreneur space, there’s this belief or thought that’s encouraged that’s along the lines of “trust that everything is going to work out.”

And another belief/thought is to set intentions without being attached to them.

Carol Dweck’s observation that you need to trust yourself enough to trust you’ll recover is so enlightening to these two belief/thoughts that I’ve sometimes wrestled with over the years.

So, on this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie, we’re going to talk about that.

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Update: You can watch this Wednesday LIVE with Evie here.