What are you grateful for? (a bit of gratitude and dreaming)

We’re almost halfway through the week after Thanksgiving!

Are you back in your regular grove?

It’s almost December and one of the things I like to do is think about what I’m thankful for.

Thanksgiving ushers in the topic for me.

I also like to think about what I want more and less of in the new year.

And I review my wishlist and remove anything that’s no longer relevant and add things that I’ve been thinking about.

For me, December is a time to step back, BE, and notice what comes up.

And even though it’s not December yet, I’m thinking about these things now that Thanksgiving is over (it was very early this year).

So, for this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie (at 1pm CST) we talk about:

  • What you’re thankful for
  • What you want more of
  • What you want less of
  • Creating (or editing) your business wish list

Basically it’s a bit of gratitude and dreaming.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #45

How do you decide to say yes?

I was thinking this morning of last week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie titled Saying no with confidence. And I was wondering what topic would build on that a bit.

I thought about different ways to more clearly know in advance what to say no to.

I thought of how we say yes and no to things that take our time or end up on our to-do list.

I thought of a previous video I did called How to decide to say no (it’s under five minutes).

And I thought of things I’ve recently said yes to and how I decided to say yes.

I realized I had some pretty clear criteria (and it ties to how to know in advance what to say no to).

There were already things I had thought out and decisions I had made that allowed me to fairly quickly say yes when the opportunities arrived.

And on the flip side, they allowed me to quickly know what’s not a fit and say no to or not pursue certain things.

They boil down to three questions that I thought you’d be interested in.

So, in this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie (at 1 pm CDT) let’s talk about those three questions.

Update: You can watch this Wednesday LIVE with Evie here.

Saving time and energy with NO

Over the past couple of weeks, I’ve been complimented on something I would not or could not have done three or four years ago.

And because I have this newer to me skill, I’ve saved myself (and others) time, energy, and frustration.

So, what is it that I’ve been complimented on?

You might already have an idea of what it is from the title of this post.

It’s the way I clearly say “No” to an invitation to purchase a product or service that I’m not interested in (or not interested in at this time).

I was talking with a friend and she shared that she wishes more business women would be comfortable and confident enough to be able to do that, it would save her a lot of time and frustration.

How are you at clearly and confidently saying “No”? (This isn’t a skill I’ve always had)

Let’s talk about what might be happening and how to clearly say no this week for Wednesday LIVE with Evie (1pm CDT).

I’m planning on sharing stories of how I’ve said no (or failed badly at it), dissecting those stories, and how to politely and firmly say no.

Check out the Facebook event here.
Update: You can watch this Wednesday LIVE with Evie here.

Is your technology distracting you?

I hope you had a wonderful weekend!

I spent part of Saturday setting up my new computer in my office.

You probably didn’t know that I spent most of September working in my living room on my old laptop off a card table.

Yes, part of it was that I wanted a change of scenery, but most of it was frustration with my technology.

You see, I realized toward the end of August that I was wasting a lot of time watching YouTube and playing games, both on my phone. And those are warning signs that there’s a problem.

Normally, it’s a sign I’m avoiding something—you know, do anything but that thing that really needs to be done that I’m procrastinating about.

But that wasn’t it.

So, I started noticing what was going on when this happened.

I was surprised and annoyed to realize that it was my own impatience with technology.

You see, my previous desktop computer was so old that the version of Windows it used was no longer supported and that meant my browser of choice was no longer getting updates and was only opening about 60% of the websites I wanted it to and it was slow opening other things. Oh, and Windows Explorer would crash about once a day and the blue screen of death would appear about once a week.

So, while I would wait for things to load or reboot, I’d pull out my phone. I didn’t realize how normal and time-consuming all of this had become until I took a step back. So, while I would wait for things to load or reboot, I’d pull out my phone.

I didn’t realize how normal and time-consuming all of this had become until I took a step back.

I tried a couple of different workarounds, and what I found worked best was my old laptop (that doesn’t close because accidentally broke the hinge months ago) and it was easiest to set up in the living room.

Here’s the problem with that though—my living room isn’t my office. While my husband is super sweet and understanding, the living room wasn’t a permanent solution.

So, I have a new desktop and it’s working great!

But, you didn’t come here to read about why I got a new computer.

I’m sharing all this because it illustrates two things:

  1. sometimes our distractions slowly become normalized and we don’t realize it
  2. technology isn’t always super helpful

Let’s talk about that for this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie (at 1pm CDT).

Check out the Facebook event here.
Update: You can watch this Wednesday LIVE with Evie here.

Even if it doesn’t work out, it’s okay

Yesterday, driving home from church I was listening to the Good Life Project podcast by Jonathan Fields. He was talking with Nilofer Merchant (who I had never heard of, but LOVED their conversation – although this is a common thing for me and this podcast).  You can find the podcast here (the part of the conversation I reference below it toward the end).

Nilofer talked with Carol Dweck, who is the source of the growth vs fixed mindset idea, as research for her (Nilofer’s) book and asked Carol “what’s the thing that’s going on in someone’s head for them to be able to have a growth mindset? …What’s that internal conversation?”

And Carol Dweck shared that “the conversation you’re having with yourself is ‘I trust myself enough, that if I fail at it, if I lose it, if I don’t get it right the first time, I trust myself enough to recover.'”

Nilofer rephrases it slight to be: How do you trust that even if it doesn’t work out that it’s okay?

This got me thinking about how in the self-help world or in the solopreneur space, there’s this belief or thought that’s encouraged that’s along the lines of “trust that everything is going to work out.”

And another belief/thought is to set intentions without being attached to them.

Carol Dweck’s observation that you need to trust yourself enough to trust you’ll recover is so enlightening to these two belief/thoughts that I’ve sometimes wrestled with over the years.

So, on this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie, we’re going to talk about that.

Check out the Facebook event here.

Update: You can watch this Wednesday LIVE with Evie here.