When was the last time you told a friend they sucked and were a failure?
Never? Maybe only in jest?
When was the last time you said that to yourself?
I know I can be tough on myself for not reaching goals, getting sidetracked instead of getting something done, or any number of other reasons.
But I’d NEVER say those things to a friend.
I guess I’m not a friend of myself??
It certainly can feel like that.
It takes time to unlearn those habits.
It takes practice, but you can get better at noticing when this is happening. You can learn your patterns and make adjustments. Watch for your insights and write them down. Then to remind yourself, put them on sticky notes where you’ll see them (like on your monitor).
Next time you get sidetracked, don’t reach a goal, or any other reason you might be mean to yourself, take a step back and treat yourself the way you’d treat a good friend.
And take opportunities to celebrate your wins. That might be reaching a goal. It can also be celebrating that you did the work, showed up, and did the things, regardless of the result.