The Motivation Myth

Earlier this week I had a thought that I summed up by writing this in my notebook “motivation vs making it easy.”

I wondered how much of what we do (or don’t do) – or what “successful” people do (or don’t do) isn’t so much a matter of motivation as it is about making the things that need to get done as easy as possible to do.

This lead to me thinking about motivation in general and how often we substitute “wanting to” or “being inspired” with motivation.

Many other rabbit holes of thoughts were explored.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #64

How many projects/goals are too many?

I came across something today that made me think about how I structure what projects I work on.

Because sometimes there are soooo many things I want to do. Programs to take and to run, things to learn and try, ideas to explore, and people to see.

And I want to do everything NOW.

But is it a good idea to work on 10 projects at once?

Let’s talk about that.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #63

When you can’t think your way through a decision

An interesting thing happened last week.

I was given the opportunity to join a challenge that from the outside looked like it would be fun and motivating.

But, it freaked me out and made me anxious.

I spent a bit of time avoiding it completely.

Until I realized I was avoiding other things in my business because I was avoiding thinking about that challenge.

So, I decided to reach out to the person leading it and exclude myself from the challenge.

And was then surprised by how much better I felt. It really did feel like a weight was lifted from my shoulders.

Let me be clear: this challenge is a great idea and for those that have chosen to participate, I’m sure they’re getting a lot out of it.

It wasn’t for me.

And in the past, I might have tried to push through it to prove something to myself.

I was reminded that one part of productivity is knowing what to say yes to, and what to say no to.

How do you make that decision?

And when are you saying no out of fear or “playing small” versus saying no because it’s really not for you?

Let’s talk about that.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #62

How to avoid the temptation of bright and shiny objects

The other weekend I was doing some filing (into my file cabinet instead of the pile of “to be filed” that had accumulated) and realized I was stuffing paper into already full folders in a drawer that was also pretty full.

So, I decided it was time to pull the older files out and move them to the big file cabinet in the basement.

As I went through the things that I wanted/needed to keep (old taxes and bills), I realized I also had some miscellaneous folders in there labeled things like “to read” and “programs.”

Basically, they were articles, freebies, and workbooks I had printed out for reference over 2 to 4 years ago. I filed them because “I might want them later.”

I laughed at that as I looked through and saw some articles and training on social media I had saved (how useful will that really be 2+ years later?).

Ultimately I decided to recycle everything in those folders.

As I was thinking about what tomorrow’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie was going to be, I thought of this experience and realized I was information hoarding things that had been shiny objects (aka convenient distractions).

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #60

Have you ever found yourself chasing bright and shiny objects instead of doing the work that actually needs to be done?

In the video I share:

  • 2 ways to stop the chase in its tracks
  • the evidence (piles of it) I found of my previous bright and shiny object chasing

Every time you’re annoyed, focus on this

The other day I ran into someone that I love, but in my head, I find myself occasionally rolling my eyes at certain things they say.
This person sometimes annoys me.

Do you have someone like that in your life? Someone that you regularly roll your eyes at, even if it’s only to yourself?

Maybe someone that really annoys or bothers you?

Or maybe there’s someone that anytime they talk you silently go “UGH.”

There’s also this other person, when she talks I hang on every word. I find her so interesting and want to learn everything about her.

I bet there’s someone (or many someones) like that in your life too. Someone who you really admire.

Someone that you silently wish you could be when you grow up (so to speak).

You can learn a lot about yourself from who annoys you (and why) and who you admire.

In this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie I’ll share what we can learn about ourselves through who we admire and who annoys us.

Your mission, if you choose to accept it, is to create a list (just for yourself) of three people who really annoy or bother you and a list of three people who you really admire or like.

In the LIVE, I’ll walk you through what you can learn from that list.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #59

When someone annoys you it’s generally because:

  • It goes against one of your core values
  • They’re doing something you do (or used to do) that you judge as “bad”
  • They have something you want and don’t have yet – it could be physical, emotional or something else

When you admire someone it’s generally because:

  • There’s a shared value (they’re honoring or exemplifying one of your core values)
  • It’s something we do well
  • They’re doing something we wish we could do
    • AND the cool thing is that if we recognize it in others, the seed for it exists in us