The other side of accountability

What is the first thing you think of when you hear accountability?

Do you think of someone who looks disapprovingly down her nose at you when you don’t finish something on time?

Or does it look different?

Is there understanding, support, or compassion?

Sometimes in our desire (or rush or push) to get things done, it’s easy to forget other things that are also important.

I share about this in the video below.

WEDNESDAY LIVE WITH EVIE #88

What internal places do you make decisions from every day?

Have you ever thought about how you make decisions?

Well, not the process you use to make decisions, but is there something special about decisions you make that you tend to stick with?

Why are there some decisions that are quickly abandoned and others that you half-heartedly move forward with? 

AND then there the ones that you stay committed to.

The ones that when you are deciding (consciously or not) whether to abandon or continue with, that you stick with.

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. 

There is a decision or commitment that I feel like I should do. I should commit to it, tell a few key people about it, and get it done.

I’ve learned that I do pretty badly with should do‘s that aren’t also want to‘s.

And then there’s this other thing that comes into play that keeps popping up for me.

Something that I feel like is unique to me but maybe isn’t.

It feels like there are two places in me that make decisions.

One is the logical, determined side that says, THIS is the goal and HERE IS what we’re going to do to meet it.

It’s the part that wants to declare the commitment or goal loudly and move toward it.

And then there is the other place. 

It’s quiet and determined.

It’s the place where the work actually gets done.

And if this place in me is not fully on board with the commitment or goal (or whatever), then it’s just not going to happen.

It doesn’t require a grand announcement of the goal (in fact, it prefers if there’s not one). 

I’m working on honoring and recognizing that quiet and determined voice more.

When I do, then I can use that other side to create the plans.

Am I alone here or do you have these two places that make decisions too? (I’d love it if you’d share in the comments below!)

How do you describe them?

WEDNESDAY LIVE WITH EVIE #86

Defining your work-life balance

Anytime I hear something and it’s still rolling around in my brain a few days later, I try to take notice.

I’ve heard the topic work-life balance come up a couple times in the last week and remembered a demonstration I’ve done in the past to help illustrate my thoughts on work-life balance.

In this week’s Wednesday LIVE with Evie, I talk about defining your work-life balance

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #85

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #84 : Just start

Just start

I took a break from blogs and doing lives due to family priorities and I’ve found it difficult to get back into the flow/habit/rhythm I had created for this prior.

There isn’t any magic pill or inspiration that hit to get back into that flow/habit/rhythm.

The only way to get started is to just start and trust that in that process it will get easier and the flow/habit/rhythm will return.

As I was thinking about this, I realized that a common piece of advice I hear shared would NOT work for me—I’d rarely start anything using this advice.

The advice is to have a few pieces already prepared before you start. 

This looks like having a month of blog posts written before you publish your first blog, have several podcasts recorded before you share your first podcast, or any number of things like that.

This can easily lead to perfectionism, things taking longer than they need to, and it can prevent you from being able to quickly pivot when something doesn’t go quite the way you expected.

I explore this topic in the video below.

Wednesday LIVE with Evie #84