Have you ever been in a situation where you felt you should do something, but maybe you didn’t really want to? Or the reverse, where you felt you shouldn’t do something, but you really did want to?
Wanting to do something feels a lot better than feeling like we should do something. When I read a book I want to read, I get a lot more out of the experience and generally enjoy it more. When I read a book I feel I should read, it takes a really long time for me to read and I don’t enjoy the book as much. That experience between want’s and should’s is pretty universal.
How about when you don’t want to do something? If you don’t want to do something and you do anyway you won’t get as much out of the experience, right? Well, yes and no. There are a lot of things that I don’t want to do (on some level) that I do anyway because the reason I don’t want to do it is that it’s outside of my comfort zone (for more on that read this post).
I recently found myself with an opportunity to do something that I felt I should do and I wanted to do it, but I had little energy for it (I was tired just thinking about it). I reviewed my energy for this opportunity from many different angles. Was it outside my comfort zone somehow? Was I being fueled by rivalry? Was I trying to prove something to someone? Was I worried about what other people would think?
I finally decided to sit down and prepare for this opportunity. The words wouldn’t come. I sat for a while and had many feelings that I wanted to convey, but no words to express them.
That’s when I quieted myself and listened to my gut (or intuition). I learned that I wasn’t ready for this opportunity at this time. That’s why I had low energy for it. And I realized that while this specific opportunity would never be available again, I can share with a portion of that audience in other ways in the future, when I am ready and there is energy for it.
When you find yourself in a place where the should’s and want to’s meet, but have no energy or enthusiasm for the task don’t forget to check your gut or intuition. What does that say you should do?
Have an important decision to make? Check your intuition!
Need to know what you should do next? What does your intuition say about it?
You hear people say to trust your intuition, but how do you know what your intuition is telling you about that decision?
One way to tap into your intuition to help you make decisions is to think about two situations:
Situation 1: Think about a person, place, thing, or situation that made (or makes) you feel completely engaged, happy or at home. Think about what you felt emotionally, physically and mentally.
Situation 2: Think about a person, place or thing that made (or makes) you feel completely out of your element and uncomfortable. Think about what you felt emotionally, physically and mentally.
Now, think about the decision you want to make. If you decide yes, how does it feel? Does it feel more like situation 1 or situation 2? If you decide no, how does it feel?
For example, let’s say you want to determine if you should go to an event or not. When you think about going to the event, does it feel more like situation 1 or 2? I can usually tell by the feeling in my stomach or back. The feeling in both places is different for each situation.
How do you tap into your intuition to make decisions?
A couple of things to point out:
- The above technique is very similar to Martha Beck’s “Shackles Off/On” technique in her book “Steering By Starlight.”
- If you want some additional ways to tap into your intuition check out this post on Angela Artemis’ blog Powered by Intuition.
Photo credit: Peace by kudumomo via flickr
I wrote a guest post today for my friend Steve over at Karmic Kappuccino. The topic is Listening to Your Intuition. Check it out here and be sure to check out the other posts!