Over the past few weeks I’ve noticed that some of us are coming up against our stuff.
Maybe you’re there too. Maybe for a bit your goals felt too big and the path there too daunting. And everything that comes your way is another thing to add to your already heavy load. You feel like you’re just waiting for that proverbial straw that breaks the camel’s back.
So, what do you do?
There are several ways to handle it.
Some people stuff their feelings and try to quickly move on, ignoring the stuff. The problem is those feelings eventually bubble to the surface even stronger.
Others allow themselves to feel the stuff and continue to feel it for days.
Neither is a great option.
So, what to do?
Throw yourself a pity party if that’s what you need. Allow yourself to feel your stuff.
Does that suggestion surprise you?
Well, there are strings attached: set a time limit.
When you recognize what’s going on, that you have stuff to work through, give yourself some time to feel it AND set a timer. Whether that’s 10 minutes or 20 – set a timer and allow your stuff to bubble up.
Now, I realize that once the timer goes off it’s not easier to simply feel better (super easy to write, difficult to do).
So, when the timer goes off take a few deep, calming breaths. Go ahead and do that now. Breathe in deep through your nose and out through your mouth. Relaxing isn’t it?
Next, think about what’s going right and what your thankful for. Gratitude, it’s a great mood lifter.
So, next time you want to throw yourself a pity party, go ahead! But make sure you’re consciously making that decision. Also, limit how long the party is and then spend some time being grateful for other things in your life.