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Your One Year Plan

A year ago at this time I was working with my coach to decide what my next career step would be.  One of the most useful things she had me do was think about and write down how I wanted my life to look, but it didn’t start with a year from now.  Nope, it started with 10 years from now, then 5 years, then 1 year.

For me, this was backwards of how I normally planned, but her reason made sense.  When you plan for 10 years out you automatically tap into your intuition.  And when you start with one or five years out then your brain can logically determine where you will probably be, but 10 years out is harder for your brain to predict.

Want to try it?  Think about 10 years from now.  What do you want be feeling?  What do you want to be doing? What do you want to have?  What does a normal weekday look and feel like? And weekend? Then repeat for 5 years out and 1 year out.  Each one is a step to the next one.

I did this exercise and I could answer all of the questions except what I wanted to be doing.  However, answering the questions gave me a good feel for the types of jobs that would be a good fit.  I saw myself working from home, setting my own schedule and making a difference in people’s lives in a way that I got to see and not just imagine.  It didn’t tell me exactly what I would be doing, but it gave me a framework to start with.

Perhaps you’re not trying to figure out your next career step, maybe you’re looking for something else.  About five years ago I would have done this exercise and saw myself in a full time job, but there were other things I was searching for: fulfillment, spiritual connections and meaningful friendships.  I bet if I would have done the exercise then I would have placed myself in a future with those things.  Working through this exercise would have given me a framework to work with and goals to plan for.

Try this exercise for yourself and let me know one goal you want to accomplish in the next week as a result.

Is Control an Illusion?

I was thinking about control the other day and how we don’t have control over a lot of things that happen in our lives.  We can’t control the weather, our friends and family or the other drivers.  Sometimes this can be rather frustrating for me.  Where is spring?  Why is it still chilly here? Why is that person tailgating me?  Who’s going to be nice and let me change lanes?

So, last weekend when I heard someone say that being in control of our lives is just an illusion, I immediately nodded my head in agreement.  After all, just look at the list of things I can’t control.  The list of things I can’t control is infinite.

Then I remembered the one thing I do have control of in all situations.  I am in control of how I choose to react in each situation I’m in or observe.  I get to choose whether the guy tailgating me annoys the heck out of me or not.  I get to choose if I complain about the cold day or enjoy the fact that the sun is out.  You get to make those same decisions in your life.

So, is control an illusion?  I guess it depends on what you’re trying to control.  Are you trying to control the situation or your reaction to the situation?  I find it’s less stressful for me when I make the decision to control my reaction, rather than the situation.

What do you think?

I Can’t Wait for Today!

Have you ever said “I can’t wait for tomorrow” or “I can’t wait for Friday” or “I can’t wait for today to be over” or anything along those lines? Yeah, me too. I don’t think it’s possible to go back and count how many times I’ve said some version of that.

Have you ever said or thought “I can’t wait for today!”? I was talking with some friends the other day and one of them said that she put a note that says “I can’t wait for today” in a spot that she sees it everyday. She was going through a rough patch and was counting down the days to the weekend. Then she realized, why do I need to wait for the weekend? What can I do today?

So, what are you waiting for and can you start working on it today?